You are children to Hashem your G-d. You should not cut
yourselves, and you shall not make a bald spot between your eyes for a
Till Death Do Us Part1
Rashi: Do not place a cutting or tearing of the flesh, as the Emorites do.
You are G-d’s children. It is appropriate for you to have a pleasant
appearance, and not look cut or balded.
Maharal: It is difficult to harmonize this understanding of the plain
meaning of the verse with a derashah of Chazal2 that derives
from here that a single court in a city should not present conflicting
decisions, with some of the judges ruling like Bais Hillel, and others like
Bais Shammai. This would divide the practice of the community into two
The gemara demonstrates quite well why the word “sisgodedu” accommodates
both derashos. It also points to the allusion of its root to the word
agudah, group. This hints to us that a community should not be divided
against itself regarding a single halachic issue, with some acting one way,
and others in a demonstrably different way.
Yet, we are still not put at ease by this. While the derashos are both
justified and appropriate, they still grate on us, because they have
nothing to do with each other. Over-the-top personal mourning practices do
not strike us as related to the conduct of community courts. We are
accustomed to seeing derashos on a given pasuk relate to a single topic.
In fact, the derashos do revolve around a single point: dividing what is
meant to be whole. Tearing into the flesh in the anguish of mourning cuts
into what is meant to be whole and undivided. Similarly, when a court
divides itself into two camps regarding some halachic decision, it takes a
community that ought to be united in practice, and divides it into two. The
Torah finds each one of these situations contrary to a wholeness that
Hashem engineered into it, and wished to see maintained.
Ramban challenges Rashi’s explanation of the connection between our being
children of Hashem and the prohibition of cutting into flesh. Rashi says
that because we are His children, it is inappropriate for us to disfigure
ourselves. Because of our relationship with Him, we ought to give a
pleasing appearance. If this were the case, asks Ramban, would it not be
forbidden to tear into the flesh for any reason at all – not just as a
I don’t believe this to be a valid objection. The Torah tries to educate
us, to change our acceptance of many wrong-headed ideas. But it does not
try to forbid every behavior that flows from those ideas. It will often
restrict the lesson to obvious or common manifestations of that attitude,
while disregarding others. Tearing into the flesh as a mourning practice
was a common behavior, while other forms of tearing were less common. The
Torah does not try to be exhaustive in its prohibition, and limits itself
to the strongest example of the faulty attitude, and disregards the others.
Returning to the main issue, we can look at the prohibition is an entirely
different manner as well. The prohibition against cutting our flest aims
at preserving our consciousness of Hashem’s Oneness.
When a person suffers a loss, he attributes his loss to the operation of
Divine judgment. His focus on the midah of din may be so complete, that he
loses sight of Hashem’s opposing midah of rachamim. The tearing of flesh
is a preverbal expression of giving midas ha-Din an exclusive – as if midas
ha-rachamim did not exist. G-d’s Oneness, however, demands that all things
be contained within Him. Rachamim is at least as much a part of Him as is
din – if anything, far more so. Concentrating too narrowly on din is, in
effect, a denial in part of Hashem’s Oneness. Tearing into the flesh for
any other purpose or occasion says nothing about din and rachamim, however,
and therefore lies outside of the purview of our prohibition.
Din in its pure sense is associated with one other public institution.
Elsewhere, the Torah teaches “Judgment belongs to G-d.”3 The
court is not a place for rachamim, but for the exercise of din. Although as
human beings we can hardly hope to promote din in a pure form, we are still
aware of our roll as purveyors of a commodity – din – that is sourced
within Hashem. The face of that Din ought to testify to the One G-d behind
it. When the output of a beis din is fractured, and divided, this too
detracts from our appreciation of G-d’s Oneness.
The element that is common to both of the derashos – the one cited here by
Rashi, and the gemara’s finding of a prohibition against splitting a
community’s halachic base – is a requirement to relate to the Oneness of
Hashem in a manner not apparent to most people. Believing that Hashem is
One requires far more than rejecting the idea of many gods, or a chief god
with many associates. While the true nature of His Oneness is unfathomable
to us, who live in a world of many things and many divisions, we can at
least understand on some level the idea of Hashem as containing all
phenomena within Him, with no exceptions. The Torah does not demand this
only of the philosopher, but in a measured manner, of all loyal Jews.
1. Yevamos 14A
2. Based on Gur Aryeh, Devarim 14:1
3. Devarim 1:17
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