QUESTION: What are the possible halachic problems and
solutions regarding adoption?
A. Is it proper?
When the adoption process conforms to halachic
guidelines, it is considered to be an extremely noble and
rewarding deed. In numerous places in the Talmud, our Sages
praise one who raises another person's child as his own(1).
B. Child's origin - Jew or non-Jew?
Both of these choices have their advantages and
disadvantages. Theoretically, a Jewish child would be preferable,
since it is a great mitzvah to raise a Jewish child who may
otherwise not have a Jewish home. In practice, however, it may
prove difficult to verify the lineage (yichus) of the child, in which
case unforeseen problems may arise regarding the child's future
entry into a Jewish marriage. Thus, before adopting a Jewish
child, one should thoroughly investigate the child's background to
clarify his yichus.
A non-Jewish child, however, has no yichus problem. At
the time of adoption the child undergoes conversion, which allows
the child to marry any person permitted to wed a convert. The
drawback, however, is that the child must(2) be told of his
conversion when he or she reaches the age of maturity, thirteen for
a boy and twelve for a girl. At that time, the child is given the
option to reject the earlier conversion which took place without
his consent. Should the child choose to reject his conversion, he
would be considered a non-Jew. Obviously, a non-Jew would not
be adopted or raised as one's own child.
C. How close a relationship?
Adopted children should be told of their origin at the
earliest possible time(3). People who choose to hide the origin of
their adopted children from them may unwittingly cause grave
halachic hardships or complications in the future and it is
forbidden to do so(4).
Although in a spiritual sense an adopted child may be
considered as one's own child, the poskim stress that this does not
apply to physical contact. Yichud (being alone), hugging, kissing,
etc., are not permitted as they are with one's natural child. Most
poskim strictly forbid this type of physical contact(5). Yichud with
an adopted child may even be more stringent than with a stranger,
since it would fall under the category of "libo gas bah"(6). [Note
that these halachos apply to foster children and stepchildren as
There is, however, a view(7) that tends to be lenient on this
issue. This view holds that when a child is adopted at a young age,
we assume that a basic father/daughter or mother/son relationship
has developed between them. We do not fear that any illicit
relations will take place and hence do not restrict the parents from
treating their adopted children as their own. This leniency applies
only to children who were adopted before the age when yichud is
prohibited, three for a girl and nine for a boy. A couple may not
adopt a child of an older age unless they observe all restrictions of
yichud and physical contact(8).
Harav M. Feinstein(9) also holds that yichud is permitted
with adopted children, but for a different reason. No adoptive
father, he suggests, would dare commit an illicit act with his
adoptive daughter for fear of being found out by his wife upon her
return home. That intimidation factor alone is enough to permit
yichud. Consequently, as long as both adoptive parents are alive,
married and living together in one home, yichud with a stepchild
[in their home] is permitted(10).
According to Harav Feinstein, it is also permitted to kiss
and hug an adopted child, since the kissing and hugging is done as
any parent does to his or her child, which is permitted(11). Others
allow this only till the age of five or six(12). As we mentioned
earlier, most poskim do not agree with this approach altogether. In
their opinion, an adopted or a stepchild is just like any other
stranger with whom yichud, hugging and kissing etc., are
D. How is he called to the Torah?
The poskim disagree as to whether an adopted child should
be called to the Torah as the son of the adoptive father(13). Harav
S.Z. Auerbach(14) rules that if the biological father's name is
known, then the child should be called to the Torah by that name.
If the biological father's name is not known, then he may be called
to the Torah as the son of the adoptive father.
1.Harav Y.Y. Kanievsky, among other eminent Torah giants, endorsed the
practice for those unable to have children of their own - See Devar
Halachah (addendum to fourth edition). See also Chazon Yechezkel (preface
to Tosefta Yevamos). R' Shlomo Kluger (Chochmas Shelomo E.H. 1:1) holds
that the mitzvah of procreation can be accomplished through adoption. Most
other authorities do not agree with this.