Question: Are there any restrictions against reciting the blessing of
shehecheyanu during the mourning period of Sefiras ha-omer?
Discussion: The poskim agree that from a halachic point of view there is no
reason not to recite shehecheyanu during the days of sefirah. It is,
therefore, permitted to eat new fruit in season and to buy new clothing or
dishes during this time period.
Still, there are communities where shehecheyanu is not recited during
sefirah. Some communities are even stricter and refrain from buying new
clothes during sefirah altogether, even basics which do not require the
blessing of shehecheyanu. Since these restrictions have valid sources — some
can be traced as far back as to the Rishonim — they should be upheld by
the communities or families whose traditions they are. But those who do not
have these customs are not required to observe them, as the halachah makes
no such stipulations.
[One who was under the impression that it is halachically prohibited to
recite shehecheyanu during sefirah, but learned subsequently that this is
not the case, does not need hataras nedarim in order to change his custom
and recite shehecheyanu during sefirah. ]
Moving into a new house or apartment during sefirah is another case in
point. The halachah permits one to move during sefirah. It is also
permitted to paint or decorate one’s home during sefirah. But if one’s
family practice is to refrain from moving or making home improvements during
sefirah, one should follow the principle of not deviating from family
custom, as is true in all matters of halachah.
Note: The above halachos apply only to the days of sefirah. During the Three
Weeks, which take place before Tishah b’Av, the halachos are more stringent;
see The Weekly Halachah Discussion on Parashas Pinchas.
Question: May a husband and a wife observe different periods of mourning
during sefirah, each following his/her family’s custom?
Discussion: Generally speaking, once a woman gets married, she follows her
husband’s customs — both leniencies and stringencies. Marriage signifies a
wife’s entrance into her husband’s domain, and that entry obligates her to
follow his customs.
But it is permitted for a husband to allow his wife to continue practicing
her parents’ customs even though they differ from his own. For instance, it
is permitted for a wife to continue praying in nusach Sefarad even though
she married a husband who prays in nusach Ashkenaz, as long as her husband
does not insist that she change her custom to his. In our case, too, it
is permitted for a wife to observe her family’s mourning period, as long as
her husband does not object.
Question: Is nail-cutting permitted during sefirah?
Discussion: Yes, it is; only hair cutting and removal is forbid¬den
during sefirah. It is also permitted to trim a mustache that interferes with
eating, to tweeze eyebrows or eyelashes, and to comb one's hair
even though some hair will get pulled out in the process.
Married women may cut hair that is protruding from their head covering.
Question: If one forgot to count one day of the Sefiras ha-Omer, may he
continue to count?
Discussion: There is a major dispute among the poskim of the Geonic era over
whether or not forgetting to count one day invalidates the entire count.
Some are of the opinion that the Torah’s command to count “seven complete
weeks” renders the entire count as one entity, one long mitzvah.
Consequently, forgetting to count one day destroys the entire sequence and
no further counting is possible. Most other poskim hold, however, that each
day is considered a separate mitzvah. One (or several) day’s omission,
therefore, has no bearing on counting the other days.
The Shulchan Aruch rules like the majority opinion, that one day’s
counting has no connection to the other days’. One must, therefore, continue
to count the sefirah even when a day [or several days] was omitted. The
blessing over the count, however, should not be said, in deference to those
who hold that omitting a day invalidates the entire mitzvah. The Mishnah
Berurah recommends that one hear the blessing from someone else, so that he
can fulfill the mitzvah in the proper way, with a blessing.
If a person is uncertain as to whether he missed the previous day’s count,
he is permitted to count the remaining days with a blessing.
One who forgot to count during the night should count during the following
day without a blessing. He may then continue to count on the following
evenings with a blessing.
One who forgot to count on a Thursday night but remembered to do so on
Friday afternoon after kabbalas Shabbos and Maariv but before sunset, may
count on the following days with a blessing.
There is a dispute among the poskim concerning one who forgot to count
one evening, but remembered to count the next day after sunset but before
nightfall (the time period known as bein ha-shemashos). Most poskim allow
him to count on the following days with a blessing while a minority opinion
1. Mishnah Berurah 493:2 and most other poskim, quoted in Bein Pesach
10. Harav S.Z. Auerbach (Minchas Shelomo 1:1-7). It is advisable, though,
that for the sake of the children’s chinuch, both husband and wife pray in
the same nusach (Harav Y.S. Elyashiv, quoted in Tefillah k’Hilchasah 4, note 4).
11. In addition, see Igros Moshe, O.C. 1:159 and 2:95, who maintains that
observing different sefirah mourning periods is not — halachically speaking
— considered as practicing different “customs” at all.
12. Kaf ha-Chayim 493:16.
13. O.C. 551:13.
14. Bein Pesach l'Shavuos, pg. 241, quoting oral rulings from Harav S.Z.
Auerbach and Harav S. Wosner.
15. Mishnah Berurah 551:20.
16. Mishnah Berurah 551:79. When necessary, women may shave their legs;
Harav M. Feinstein (Oholei Yeshurun, pg. 9). See also Igros Moshe, Y.D.
2:137 where he allows women to take haircuts when necessary during the Three
Weeks. When necessary, a girl of marriageable age may have her hair cut;
Harav S.Z. Auerbach (Halichos Beisah, pg. 371).
21. See Kaf ha-Chayim 489:83 who rules not to say a blessing, while
Minchas Yitzchak 9:57 and Yabia Omer 4:43 rule that a blessing may be said.
Surely, one who remembered to count within 9 minutes after sunset, may count
on the following days with a blessing; see Igros Moshe, O.C. 4:62.