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Suicide Moms
Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky

For the last seven years, I have patterned this D'var Torah in a standard way. I quote a verse, ask a question and then I relate a story. I then conclude by explaining my answer to the Biblical question, hoping that the story I related has some enlightening or plausible connection.

In the topsy-turvy world we live in, I'd like to do something different this week. I'd like to relate a few stories first, ask a question on the almost incomprehensible stories, and then relate a verse from the Torah, with the hope that the Torah's prescience will help us to in some way understand them.

Hussein Nasr was a failed suicide bomber. He plowed an explosive-laden truck into an Israel army post. He wanted to kill himself along with as many Israeli soldiers as possible. He was only partially successful in his mission, as the only one blown to bits by his evil scheme was he himself.

Like proud relatives filming a family simcha (happy occasion), the Islamic Resistance Movement (Hamas) took a video of his truck plowing into the Israeli post. Until Nasr's 71-year-old father, Hassan, heard of his son's actions, he said that he had no idea his son belonged to Hamas. But when he heard about the attack on Israeli radio, he declared, "I am proud of him. The whole world is proud of him. Even the land is proud of him here," he said.

Here's another story, that defines a new level of chutzpah.

The proud mother of Iman Atalalla, who killed Israeli soldiers by detonating a bomb-laden car, submitted forms requesting welfare payments of $150 a month through the Islamic Rescue Committee -- regarded in Israel as a Hamas fund-raising group. On the welfare application, the bomber's family wrote: "Died: September 12 1993; Place: Gaza; Circumstances of incident: suicide mission in booby-trapped car."

The terrorist was single, aged 20, and came from a family of nine. The family called Atalalla "polite and moral," and said he "fasted Mondays and Thursdays, prayed and read Koran." Describing his attack that killed two Israeli soldiers, the report said: "When 'his prey' approached he switched on the ignition, approached the enemy's vehicle and set off explosives, which sent a male and female soldier to [their deaths, and] the shahid (martyr) went to Paradise."

Finally, from The New York Times this past Sunday, 10/21/2001:

"I named my son Osama because I want to make him a mujahid. Right now there is war, but he is a child. When he is a young man, there might be war again, and I will prepare him for that war. I will sacrifice my son, and I don't care if he is my most beloved thing. For all of my six sons, I wanted them to be mujahedeen. If they get killed it is nothing. This world is very short."

The question is simple. Where does such moral depravity come from? How is it possible that parents consider their progeny heroes for blowing themselves up while killing others? How is it humanly possible for a mother and a father to be proud parents of monsters who commit such horrendous acts?

In this week's portion Hagar, Avram's maidservant, is driven from his home by Avram's wife, Sara. As Hagar wanders the desert, she is found by an angel who approaches her at a wellspring.

The angel prophesizes, "Behold, you will conceive, and give birth to a son; you shall name him Ishmael, for Hashem has heard your prayer. And he shall be a wild man - his hand against everyone, and everyone's hand against him; and over all his brothers shall he dwell." (Genesis 16:11-12) Powerful words. Predictions of a fate that dooms Ishmael to a violent life one that the commentaries interpret as "Ishmael being a highwayman and bandit, everyone will hate him, fear him, and battle him." Yet Hagar's response to this bestowing is as incomprehensibly baffling. She lauds the angel and "she called the Name of Hashem Who spoke to her 'You are the G-d of Vision.'" (Genesis 16:13).

Imagine. Hagar is told that her son will be a wild man, who attacks and terrorizes, yet she does not protest nor does she pray that his fate should be altered. Rather she responds with praise and exaltation for a "G-d of vision." It sounds like she is content, even proud, and frankly I just don't get it. And though I'm clueless about Hagar's attitude, perhaps now I know why her descendants don't think much differently.

It is obvious that not all of them do, of course. Everyone controls his or her own destiny. But maybe there is a national predisposition to violence. Maybe these parents are genetically infused with pride, knowing that the promise to their forebear has borne its rotten fruit. The values imparted from a nomadic matriarch have been transmitted like a deadly virus to her grandchildren, and Hagar's satisfaction is now theirs.

So this misplaced pride is not a new story. It's 3000 years old. And if you don't believe me, you can look it up.


Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky is the Rosh Mesivta (Dean of the High School) at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, the High School Division of Yeshiva of South Shore.

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Comments
What is going on when our children are "sacrificial"? Maybe that is explainable ONLY if and when God Himself says, "DO THIS, SACRIFICE YOUR CHILD TO ME." Otherwise you are just wasting lives.
  -0/5-/2008
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Sometimes their fathers and our fathers hands cannot measure the consequence of little touches to a child. When those touches within a certain envirnment or terrain amplify those effects into storms and chains that neither now father nor child can abate hope and control passes away into the ether. Our children can have independence but there ends disturbs the paths we selfishly assume for ourselves. shalom.
- M. K.  -0/3-/2005
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I have heard that the Koran teaches that Sarah was the wife sent away with her son Yitzchak and Ishmael was the son chosen to carry Avraham's lineage. In any case the prophecy to Hagar had enough good points in it ("he will rule his brothers") that she could reasonably be thankful. After all a few moments before she expected her son to die and now he has been promised to become a nation. I'd thank G-d.
- C. D.  -1/1-/2001
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I have long wondered if Hagar's son Ishmael bore the line of descendants that are now the Palestinians and that Sarai bore Issac who would be of the Israeli lineage.
- J. S.  -1/0-/2001
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Dear Rabbi Kamenetzky - I found you argument fascinating, but I'm somewhat reluctant to go along with notions of "national predisposition to violence" or "genetically infused with pride". These concepts seem to be at odds with your undoubtedly correct assertion that "Everyone controls his or her own destiny". It is important to condemn any misreading of your article which would affirm that suicide bombers have some sort of excuse because they have been programmed that way by G-d. My understanding of this portion of scripture is that the Almighty is merely predicting future events and mindsets; he is not inserting some sort of genetic predisposition which would ensure that they occur. Foreknowing, in other words, is vastly different from foreordaining. Our G-d KNOWS who will choose the wrong and reject the right, but it is not G-d who has influenced that choice. As the Rabbi says, the bottom line is that we make our own choices in this life. Blaming others - rotten parents, an unsupportive society, G-d Himself - is the ultimate copout.
- P. K.  -1/0-/2001
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