Parshas Vayishlach - Face to Face
by Rabbi Dovid Green
A parable: A king once granted all of his subjects the opportunity to come
before him with requests. Every day the king set aside one hour for
audiences with his subjects. Appointments were made for months in advance.
Each person was given three minutes to beseech the king for his needs. Many
requests were indeed granted. One man, whom we will call Ploni (Mr. So and
So), was given an appointment for three months in advance. That was ample
time to prepare just the right words which needed to be said in not one
second more than three minutes.
As time went by, Ploni compiled a large list of things he would read before
the king. He was quite proud of himself, and he was making plans what he
would do with his new-found fortune. After all," Ploni reasoned, "I have
been a loyal and faithful subject for many years."
On the appointed day Ploni made his way to the palace. He was ushered in to
the king's chambers. He bowed and greeted the king. He took out his list
and began reading. "You expect all of those things?" asked the king.
"Yes, your highness." "Why?" asked the king. "Because I have been a loyal
and faithful subject, your highness." "And for that I owe you something? Is
that what you are saying?" "Yes, your highness," replied Ploni. "Remove
this man, and let it suffice for his reward that I let him go on being my
loyal and faithful subject," exclaimed the king angrily. "And don't come
back here wasting my time with your foolish expectations."
If we can have a connection with the Creator of the universe; if He is
willing to listen to us, how should we best make use of the opportunity we
have to beseech Him? What is the attitude we should have in prayer?
We find in this week's parsha a basic lesson which is a foundation in
Jewish Prayer. Yaakov is on his way back to The Land of Canaan after having
fled from his angry brother 20 years earlier. He sends word to Eisav that
he is returning, and that he wants to be on good terms with him. Eisav
responds with gestures of war. Yaakov's messengers return with news that
Eisav is on his way with 400 men. Among the other preparations that Yaakov
makes, he prays. From his words we understand the way we, his children,
should approach G-d in our prayer.
"I have become small (undeserving) from all of the kindnesses and truth
that you have done with your servant," says Yaakov to G-d. "...Please save
me from my brother Eisav..."(Genesis 32:11-12). In the classic work "Beis
Elokim", the Mabi"t writes that a person should not demand something of
G-d. When we demand, fulfillment of our requests depends on whether we
really deserve it. Rather, requests should be for kindness; that we should
not feel entitled to what we request, but like someone asking for more than
he deserves. This is the way Yaakov approached G-d. "I have become
undeserving." That means "I've already received more than I'm entitled to.
Yet I have needs, and I recognize that You, G-d, are the One Who can
fulfill them." When G-d sees that we recognize His kindness, He continues
to bestow it in that merit. His kindness is unlimited.
The student of Torah considers his time in prayer a very special time.
Prayer is called "the fruit of the day". This means that standing face to
face with G-d, praising Him, thanking Him, and recognizing His ability to
grant us our requests is not just a means, but a noble end in itself. The
sweetness of the fruit is the attitude we manifest in requesting humbly,
and not demanding our needs.