And it was from the end of days, Cain brought an offering of the fruit of
the ground; and Hevel he also brought himself of the firstlings of his flock
and of the choicest. HASHEM turned to Hevel and to his offering, but to Cain
and his offering He did not turn. This angered Cain exceedingly and his
countenance fell. And HASHEM said to Cain, "Why are you angry and why is
your face fallen. Surely if you improve yourself you will be forgiven, but
if you do not improve yourself sin squats by the door. Its desire is against
you but you can conquer it." And Cain spoke with his brother Hevel, and it
happened when they were in the field that Cain rose up against his brother
Hevel and killed him. (Breishis 4:3-8)
Here we have such a terribly tragic episode so early in human history; one
brother kills another. How did such a thing happen? What was the motive?
The answer can be summarized in one word, "Jealousy". Cain was upset that
his brother Hevel excelled in an area that he initiated and gained the
ultimate, a cosmic ovation from The Creator. His reaction can be described
in clinical terms as "angry and depressed". He was in need of some serious
psychological intervention. Who came to the rescue? None other than HASHEM!
From here we can learn the art of good counseling. Our sages tell us that
the question of the wise is half an answer, and so HASHEM asks, "Why are you
angry and why are you depressed?" What's so brilliant about that question?
The Ha'emek Davar the Netziv cleverly points out that there are two
questions here. 1st- Why are you angry? And 2nd-Why are you depressed? What
difference does it make that there are two questions? Are these not two
conflicting emotions? Let's see!
What makes someone angry? One is brought to experience anger, I would posit,
when something or someone frustrates his power.
When somebody suddenly usurps your parking place or behaves against your
will, a fighting rage may be aroused. Here is an area where you feel
empowered and someone has curbed your clout, thwarted your will, or
disregarded your expectation. The result is anger. Who was the object of
Cain's anger? He felt betrayed by and he blamed Hevel. Over whom does he
have real power? Who is the only one that he truly has control of? Isn't it
obviously true that he is only fully responsible for himself!?
Why does someone become depressed? Is it not when all hope is lost, at least
in the imagination of the thinker!? The person feels de-energized at the
news from the doctor or lawyer that there's nothing more to do. Concerning
whom has Cain given up? He's given up on himself. Who is the only one that
he has full control of? You guessed it! Why then should he give up on
himself? Why should he try to control his brother?
Rebbe Nachman ztl. said, "When you try to break a "mida" - a character
trait, you end up with two broken character traits." Cain had two strong
responses to his brother's meteoric rise to stardom. One was energizing, the
other enervating. While trying to boost the battery of a car the positive
and negative cables must be properly aligned. If the wires are crossed the
result can be disastrous. Cain's wires were crossed, so he was told to take
control of his own destiny. "Surely if you improve you will be forgiven".
The talent and tendency to "let go" is for Hevel. Why then did he fail?
Cain's jealousy over Hevel's success was a sign of his own potential. Cain
could have and should have allowed himself to become inspired. He had three
choices, though. 1) Improve. That's hard. 2) Accept the status quo. That
hurts. 3) Chop Hevel down. That's the easy way out.