This Week’s RRR (Relevant Religious Reference): “Any
love that depends on a specific cause, when that cause is gone, the love
is gone; but if it does not depend on a specific cause, it will never
cease…” – Ethics of the Fathers (Avos), 5:19
This Week’s SSC (Suitable Secular Citation): ♪ “And I hope
when I get old I don't sit around thinking about it, but I probably will…
well time slips away and leaves you with nothing mister, but boring
stories of – GLORY DAYS” ♫ – From “Glory Days” by “The Boss” Bruce
Springsteen
SPRINGSTEEN’S HIGH SCHOOL FRIENDS
In the first verses of his song “Glory Days,” Bruce Springsteen speaks
about two of his friends who are “past their prime”, feeling hopelessly
compelled to pine away for the old days. The 1st is a guy who had been a
“big baseball player back in high school”, and the 2nd is a
woman who “could turn all the boys’ heads” back in her
heyday. I’m pretty sure that Bruce is on to something big here! Think
about it: in illustrating the “has-been” characters that are fated to pine
away for the past, look at the examples he chooses. He specifically
references people who had been highly regarded in their youth for their
PHYSICAL prowess.
A STOCK THAT IS DESTINED TO GO DOWN
So what makes Bruce’s friends – and others who are highly regarded for the
PHYSICAL prowess of their youth – especially vulnerable to
latter-life letdown? Our Sages provide a hint in their following
Talmudic statement: “Any love that depends on a specific cause – when
that cause is gone, the love is gone”. True, on one level the Sages
are speaking about interpersonal love & romantic relationships (e.g. if
you marry a woman that you “love” primarily for her looks – as her
youthful charm vanishes, the “love” gradually vanishes along with it).
But we can also apply the Sages’ quote to “self-love”, or even to
“love of life”. Let’s speculate into the early life of Bruce’s
Baseball Friend – called “BBF” below – to demonstrate how “love of
self/life” fit into the equation:
1) Young BBF has some serious baseball skills, which attract admiration &
recognition
2) The thrill of recognition causes BBF to base more and more of his
esteem and identity – his “love of self” and “love of life” – around his
baseball skills
3) DANGER AHEAD: any love – of others, of self, or
of life – that depends on a specific cause (like baseball skills
or looks) – when that cause is gone, the love is gone
4) CRISIS: Despite the fact that some stars like Roger Clemens play
well into their 40’s, BBF’s skills go the way of all physical greatness
and fade away with time. He had become known as “Mr. Baseball”, which he
proudly adopted as his self-defining label. Now what? What happens to
a “Mr. Baseball” that can no longer play the game? What happens to
a “Miss Head-Turner” that can no longer turn the heads?
THE GENERAL PROBLEM: PHYSICALITY DETERIORATES WITH TIME – physical
matter, physical strength, physical beauty, and so on! Therefore,
basing our identity and esteem around our physical greatness – much like
marrying mostly for looks – IS LIKE HEAVILY INVESTING IN A STOCK THAT WE
KNOW WILL GO DOWN! So now we can plug in all the variables to our new
equation: any “self-love” that depends on the physical greatness of our
youth – when that physical greatness is gone, the “self-love” is gone.
100 IS THE NEW 20
You’ve heard that 60 is the new 40? Well in this week’s portion, we learn
how 100 can be the new 20! We are told that our Matriarch Sarah lived
her life in such a way that when she was 100, it was as though she was
20. 100-year old Sarah didn’t need to look back at her glory days –
her “Golden Years” were her “Glory days”! How did she do
it? Perhaps because when she was 20, she invested in the rising stock of
spiritual pursuits rather than the plummeting stock of physical
preoccupations. While we said above that physicality deteriorates with
time, spirituality flows in the opposite direction and can actually get
better with time! [Incidentally, this is one reason we use wine to
sanctify experiences like Shabbat, which represents the elevation of
our physical world for a spiritual purpose. Wine and “spirits” (aptly
named) are perfect choices to symbolize this triumph: since they are
famous for improving over time, they are prime examples of physical
substances that are influenced by spiritual properties].
OLD-AGE & BEYOND
Two final points that stem from these principles are important to
consider. First of all, the value that we place on physicality vs.
spirituality will also likely determine the appreciation we have for
elderly people. On a societal level, those cultures that place the
highest premiums on physical accomplishments seem to be the same cultures
that place the lowest premiums on their senior citizens. And finally,
one more crucial concept comes out of the “love of life” analysis: we have
established that the more occupied and obsessed we become with our
fleeting physicality, the more we can expect a later life of
frustration, disappointment, and meaninglessness. But this conclusion
also holds true for our afterlife experience, for the very same
reasons: the more our “love of life” is wrapped up in our physical
preoccupations, the more difficult will our transition be to an afterlife
where that physicality is no longer accessible.
Of course, “spirituality” from a Jewish perspective is not synonymous
with deprivation or full-time mountaintop meditation! “Spirituality”
involves using the physical world sensibly to fulfill the meaningful
missions for which we were created. With that in mind, we can thank
our Sages: they may not have been seasoned stock market analysts,
but their hot tip on spiritual awareness provides us with a top
investment strategy: one that can perpetually take us from strength to
strength – ever looking ahead to greater Glory Days!
Have a Wonderful Shabbos! Love, Jon & The Chevra
Thanks to Jackie & Allen Swartz for helping to share the wisdom
of the Torah by sponsoring this week’s “Edutainment Weekly”, in honor of
Sari & Evan Swartz’s recent Wedding. May their Family be blessed
with many brachas & tremendous nachas!
