Hilchot Lashon Hara Review, Part 2:
Repentance

1. Repentance for Speaking Lashon Hara
2. Repentance for Believing Lashon Hara
3. Listening to or Believing Lashon Hara

This is the second of three review classes on Hilchot Lashon Hara, followed by three on Hilchot Rechilut.

Hilchot Lashon Hara Review: Part 2

Repentance, or Teshuva, involves three steps (in any order):

1. Regretting one's actions
2. Confessing the misdeed privately to G-d
3. Committing to not repeat the error in the future

In addition, any sin one person commits against another also requires rectification:

4. make amends or repay the damages
5. ask for forgiveness

If someone spoke Lashon Hara, all five of the steps are required. The first three are the same as in all repentance - sincere regret, confessional prayer, and the resolve plus strategies to avoid speaking it in the future.

To make amends, the speaker must go back to all those who heard his Lashon Hara and explain to them that what he said was incorrect. He must also apologize to the subject of the Lashon Hara and ask for forgiveness. If, however, the speaker is certain that the Lashon Hara was never accepted, he is only required to complete steps 1-3.

Note: if, as part of asking forgiveness, telling the subject about the Lashon Hara would cause the subject more anguish (either because he is hearing it for the first time or it renews his distress over the matter), the speaker is forbidden to mention it. Instead he should tell the subject that he sinned against him without specifying how, and ask his forgiveness.

II. Repentance for Believing Lashon Hara

III. Listening to or Believing Lashon Hara

(1) It is forbidden to accept or believe Lashon Hara, and by listening to it one might cause himself to believe it.
(2) By participating in a session of Lashon Hara, the listener would be assisting the other participants to commit the sins of speaking and believing the Lashon Hara.

If information against someone might be of benefit to someone (e.g. a potential business partner, roommate, etc.), it is permissible for that person to listen to it. (It's a good idea for that person to state why he is listening to the information so that the speaker realizes that the intentions of the listener are constructive, and also so that he doesn't intend to speak for non-constructive reasons.) However, the listener is forbidden from:

(1) accepting the information as true (he may only suspect and investigate), or
(2) taking action against the subject based on the information.

(1) decide in one's heart/mind not to accept the Lashon Hara as true.
(2) do not enjoy the Lashon Hara (because the subject is being shamed, its a funny story, etc.).
(3) do not pretend to agree or accept the Lashon Hara (make a face, don't make eye contact, or at least wear a blank expression)

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