Honor Verses Wealth
Rabbi and Mrs. Sam Vogel and family
in memory of
father and grandfather
Aharon Yehuda ben Yisroel a"h (Leon Vogel)
The Katz family
in memory of
Avraham Abba ben Yitzchak Zvi Hakohen Katz a"h
and Hersch Noach Spalter a"h
Mrs. Rochelle Dimont and family
on the yahrzeits of
grandmother and great-grandmother, Chaya Sarah Tarshish a"h
mother-in-law and grandmother, Chana Dimont a"h
father and grandfather Rabbi Elazar Tarshish a"h
David and Sarah Maslow and family
in memory of
his father Archie Maslow a"h (18 Cheshvan)
and her father Samuel Holstein a"h (25 Cheshvan)
King Shlomo writes in Mishlei (11:16-17), "The woman of grace upholds
honor, but the insolent uphold wealth. A man of kindness does good for
himself, but a cruel person troubles his flesh." Rabbeinu Yonah z"l
(Spain; 1180-1263) explains: Even when a man is not wealthy, his wife
supports and upholds his honor through her hard work, as it is written
(Mishlei 31:23), "Her husband is distinctive in the councils, when he sits
with the elders of the land." [By referring to the man as "Her husband,"
King Shlomo implies that the wife deserves credit for the man's
distinction.] In contrast, there are some people, referred to in the
verse as "the insolent," who have no hope of achieving power and
distinction unless they first obtain wealth.
R' Yonah continues: "A man of kindness does good for himself" also
contrasts with the "insolent" who seek wealth. It refers to one who cares
for his body and soul by enjoying this world's pleasures in moderation.
The Torah does not frown upon eating, drinking and other pleasures, when
done in moderation. However, "a cruel person troubles his flesh" by not
exercising appropriate restraint.
Alternatively, R' Yonah writes, the verses from Mishlei are related
to our parashah: "The woman of grace upholds honor" refers to Sarah. [It
appears from what follows that R' Yonah may now be reading the verse, "The
woman of grace will be upheld by honor."] Both this week's and last
week's parashot are replete with events that give honor to Sarah - G-d
punishes Pharaoh on her account, an angel appears to Hagar to command her
to return to Sarah, angels come to foretell that Sarah will give birth, G-
d punishes Avimelech on her account, and, finally, G-d tells Avraham that
Sarah is his superior in prophecy. (Derashot U'perushei Rabbeinu Yonah Al
"He lifted his eyes and saw: Behold! three men were standing
over him. He saw, so he ran toward them from the entrance of
the tent, and bowed toward the ground. He said, `My Master, if
I find favor in Your eyes, please pass not away from Your
Rashi z"l explains: He asked G-d to wait for him while he ran and
invited the travelers.
Based on Avraham's actions, our Sages teach that hosting guests is
greater than "receiving the face of the Shechinah." But why is this so?
R' Baruch Shalom Ashlag z"l (1907-1991; chassidic rebbe in Israel)
Man's task in this world is to serve Hashem without thought of reward
or glory. This means that, at every moment, one must ask himself: What
does G-d expect of me right now? Often, we ask ourselves this question,
but we arrive at the wrong conclusion. We fail to recognize what G-d
wants of us, writes R' Ashlag, because we assume that we are meant to be
doing glorious deeds for Hashem, not the simple or mundane tasks that
actually need to get done.
Avraham did not make this mistake. He understood that even when one
is in the middle of the most glorious service, actually engaged in
conversation with G-d, the task of the moment might be something else,
something as mundane as offering hospitality to Arabs. It is this
challenge which makes the "lesser" mitzvah (hospitality) the "greater"
mitzvah. (Birkat Shalom 5745 No. 5)
"What if there are fifty righteous people in the midst of the
city? Would You still stamp it out rather than spare the place
for the sake of the fifty righteous people within it?" (18:24)
R' Yechezkel Abramsky z"l (1886-1976; Av Bet Din of London, later a
rosh yeshiva in Israel) asks: If these fifty tzaddikim did exist, did
they have any positive influence on the people of Sdom? Why should the
city be saved on their account?
He answers: There are tzaddikim who are actively engaged with their
neighbors and perform outreach or otherwise influence the community in
public ways. There are other tzaddikim who closet themselves in their
rooms and are never noticed by their communities. Even the latter group
raises the spiritual standing of its neighbors although it is not felt in
any overt way.
How do we know this is true? Rambam writes (Hil. Yesodei Ha'Torah,
ch.7) that there are two types of nevi'im / prophets. Some nevi'im carry
prophecies to their communities. However, other nevi'im prophesy to
themselves only in order to raise their own spiritual awareness. Asks R'
Abramsky: the word "navi" literally means "spokesman." How can someone be
called a "spokesman" when he never speaks to anyone but himself? The
answer is that even the silent navi, even the hidden tzaddik, speaks
volumes to his surroundings through his unspoken words and his unheralded
actions. (Heard from R' Gedaliah Anemer shlita, 11 Marcheshvan 5769)
"For we are about to destroy this place . . ." (19:13)
"Hurry, flee there, for I cannot do a thing until you arrive
Rashi z"l comments: Because the angel said to Lot, "We are about to
destroy this place," implying that angels have independent powers, he was
later forced to admit, "I cannot do a thing."
In a number of our prayers, we appear to ask angels to perform
actions on our behalf. Among the most controversial of these is the plea,
"Machnisei rachamim," which is part of the selichot prayers that precede
the High Holidays. In that supplication, we ask the angels who are
appointed to bring prayers before G-d to bring our prayers in as well.
Even "Shalom Aleichim," which is widely recited on Friday night, is not
without detractors, for by reciting the poem we are asking angels to bless
R' Shlomo Zalman Auerbach z"l (1910-1995; one of the leading halachic
authorities of the 20th century) is quoted as explaining that praying to
angels is generally forbidden. However, when G-d has appointed an angel
to fulfill a specific task, we are permitted to encourage the angel to
perform that task. This may explain, says R' Auerbach, why the angels to
whom we address Shalom Aleichem are referred to as "angels of peace" in
the second, third and fourth stanzas of the poem, whereas in the first
stanza they are referred to as "malachei ha'shareit" / "angels who serve
G-d." In the first stanza, we are merely greeting them, so we refer to
them by their most honorable title. However, in the remaining stanzas, we
are asking them to bless us with peace; therefore we call them "angels of
peace," as if to say: "You are angels of peace. It is your task to bless
us with peace. Therefore, we ask you to bless us with peace." (Quoted in
Halichot Shlomo: Mo'adim II p.4)
"He planted an `eshel' in Beer Sheva . . ." (21:33)
A midrash states that "eshel" [literally, a type of tree] is an
acronym for "achilah, shetiyah, linah" / "food, drink, a place to sleep."
Thus, the verse is describing Avraham's hospitality to travelers.
R' Shlomo Kluger z"l (1785-1869; rabbi of Brody, Galicia) asks: Why
does the Torah not mention the hospitality of the Patriarchs Yitzchak and
Yaakov? Were they less righteous than Avraham?
He answers: Avraham had a greater obligation to perform kindness to
other people because Avraham had benefited from other people.
Specifically, he had become wealthy at the expense of Pharaoh and
Avimelech. In contrast, Yitzchak made his fortune in agriculture, and
Yaakov, raising animals. Their debt to society was not as great; thus,
they were less obligated than Avraham to perform chessed and they chose to
serve Hashem in other ways. (Chochmat Ha'Torah)
This Week in History, Halachah, and Minhag
18 Marcheshvan 5759 [Sunday, November 16, 2008] is the mid-point of
the 2711-day Daf Yomi cycle.
19 Marcheshvan 2: According to the Arizal, Hevel was killed on this
day by his brother Kayin. (Luach Davar B'ito p.320)
19 Marcheshvan 5759 [Monday, November 17, 2008]: The Leonids meteor
shower will be visible from much of the United States, as well as Israel.
One who sees a meteor recites the berachah, "Oseh ma'aseh bereishit" /
"Who makes the work of creation." (Shulchan Aruch, O.C. 227:1)
23 Marcheshvan [year unknown]: On this date, a "soreg" / a lattice-
like partition was removed from the azarah / Temple courtyard. This soreg
(not the same one mentioned in the Mishnah as a permanent part of the Bet
Hamikdash) had been built by the Greeks for immoral purposes. When the
Jews subsequently tore it down, they found many gems that had been left
there. However, because it was not known whether the gems came from
idols, and therefore it was halachically prohibited to enjoy them, the
gems were placed in storage until the day Eliyahu Hanavi will come. When
the Bet Hamikdash stood, this event was commemorated by a festival on
which eulogies and fasting were prohibited. (Megillat Ta'anit)
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