Stranger's Cup and Calling After Car Accident
QUESTION 33: USING A STRANGER'S CUP FOR YADAYIM
At my company's pantry, I wanted to wash for bread, but
didn't have a cup. There was a coffee mug there, but I
had no idea who it belonged to. Can I use it to wash for
bread? Even though I will dry out the cup after using it,
isn't there a possibility that the owner of the cup could
come by while I'm using it, and ask why I'm using his cup?
Is that a potential chillul Hashem (desecration of G-d's name)?
RABBI BELSKY'S ANSWER
It's remarkable that you ask that, because I was at a company
a couple of weeks ago, and I wanted to wash for bread. I
asked if they had a cup. They took me into the pantry and
there were a lot of cups. They said, "Take one, nobody minds."
I said, "You're sure nobody minds?" So they said, "Yes.
Nobody minds when people use each other's cups..." I was
standing there, just sort of not doing anything, so the
person said, "Here, I'll give you my cup." There are some
people who might be concerned about others using their cup.
These cups are ceramic, and if they drop they chip. But
generally speaking, I would say that there's very little
chance of chilul Hashem, very little chance of the owner
of the cup being concerned.
The gemorah says that it's not prohibited to use things
which people are mevater on (unconcerned about), things
that their owner tends to not care whether or not someone
else is using it. But you should try to look for a way
around it anyway. I felt very uncomfortable using any of
the cups of the other people.
So you should try to find an alternative, but - let's say -
you don't find one, so then certainly you can use the heter
(the dispensation), to use it.
QUESTION 34: CALLING AFTER A FENDER BENDER
My car hit the rear fender of another car. I asked the other
person to settle this between us, without the insurance
companies, and I gave him my phone number. He got an estimate
of $400, and I got an estimate of $200. He said he would think
about it. Three weeks have elapsed since I heard from him.
It's remotely possible that he lost my phone number. Should
I call him?
He may have lost your number, and you owe him money. Send
him the $200. That was a legitimate estimate. Of course you
should call him, why not? If you damage somebody, you're
obligated to pay.
NEXT QUESTION 35: LETTING SOMEONE ELSE
USE SOFTWARE I'M EVALUATING
A company that normally charges for its software sent me a
free copy for me to evaluate, since part of my job is to
recommend software to my firm. There is a person in my
company who I work with on a variety of tasks, but he's not
part of my group and his official responsibility does not
include evaluating software. He would like to install the
software that I was given and try it out. His opinion could
be useful to me in my evaluation. Can I let him install and
use the software on his machine? Does it matter if he also
uses the software at home?
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