To Yourself Be True
By Rabbi Daniel Travis
The servant [Eliezer] asked, “What if the woman does not want to return
with me to this Land? Shall I bring your son back to the land that you
left?” (Bereshith 24:5)
The prophet Hoshea said, “Canaan has in their hands scales of deceit and
they love to exploit others” (1). Our Sages explain that “hands of
deceit” refers to Eliezer, who sat and pondered, “Perhaps my daughter is
fit to marry Yitzchak...”; “...love to exploit others” refers to Eliezer’s
offer of his daughter as a wife for Yitzchak (2).
Is this not an overly harsh criticism of Eliezer? After all, Eliezer
didn’t try to cheat Avraham, he only offered his daughter as a potential
wife for Yitzchak, and when Avraham would not accept his offer, Eliezer
did not question Avraham’s response. What’s more, Eliezer’s entire doubt
was only on a subconscious level (3). When Eliezer left Avraham, he
thought he was setting out on his mission with totally pure intentions. It
was only after he met Rivka that he realized that on some level he had
hoped that his trip would result in failure, and that Yitzchak would marry
his daughter (4).
The message of our Sages is that had Eliezer been absolutely honest with
himself, he would have recognized on his own that his daughter would not
have been an appropriate wife for Yitzchak. The fact that Eliezer did not
realize this shows that there was some small measure of self-deception in
his thinking process. Such is the practice of every charlatan: not only
does he deceive others, he fools himself as well. Doubt is rooted in
deceit; and everyone is expected to make decisions based on clear,
When a person leaves this world and faces his final judgment he will be
asked a number of questions, the first of which is whether he was honest
in his business dealings (6). The glaring question is what purpose that
interrogation serves, since in the World to Come all is already known.
Such questions, it seems, are meant as tests for us: did we recognize the
truth about our life, or did we live all our life in self-deception?
1. Hoshea 12:8.
2. Bereshith Rabbah 59:9.
3. The Kotzker Rav derives this from Rashi who does not mention Eliezer’s
doubt on the verse cited above (Bereshith 24:5). Rashi waits until later,
when Eliezer repeats his story to Lavan and Bethuel (Bereshith 24:39).
4. It is noteworthy that before Eliezer met Rivka (24:12), he prayed that
God act with kindness towards Avraham and find a wife for Yitzchak. After
meeting Rivka (24:27), he thanked God for having performed an act of
kindness and truth for Avraham.
5. Chidushei HaLev pp. 86-7.
6. Shabboth 31a.
Text Copyright © 2007 by Rabbi Daniel Travis and Torah.org