Fleeing From Honor I
By Rabbi Daniel Travis
When Yaakov concluded his instructions to his sons, he drew his feet
the bed and breathed his last, and he was gathered to his people.
The Torah does not state outright that Yaakov died, and in fact our Sages
tell us that Yaakov never died.1 How can this be reconciled with an
earlier verse that quotes Yaakov telling Yosef that he is about to die?2
Yaakov actually knew that he had reached a very high spiritual state and
was not going to die, but in his great humility he did not want to reveal
this to others. Therefore he said that he was going to die.3
Some commentators say that it is actually a mitzvah to deviate from the
facts for humility’s sake.4 Others understand that it is permitted, but
not a mitzvah.5 Since it is not clear that one is obligated to do this,
it is preferable to try preserve one’s humility without straying from the
facts. For example, if someone knows a certain volume of Gemara by heart
and is asked whether he does, he can answer something to the effect
of, “You think I know that by heart?!” These words would likely be
interpreted to mean that he does not know the volume by heart, but since
he has not stated it clearly, he has not deviated from the factual truth.6
If a person has a sharp question or an intelligent answer to a question,
there is a natural tendency to state one’s response in a way that will
bring one honor. In these instances it is better to phrase one’s response
without the pronoun “I” in order to preserve one’s humility.7 Rav Dovid
Jungreis zt”l used to rehearse his shiurim aloud before he delivered them,
so that he would be able to tell others that he was only repeating words
of Torah that he had heard previously.8 Certainly if people mistakenly
thought that he knew more than he really did, he felt a responsibility to
Similarly, many authors choose not to accept credit for books they have
published. They use pen names to hide their identities, either out of
humility or to protect their privacy for reasons of their own. The Ben Ish
Chai was one halachic authority who used a pseudonym when publishing his
Torah LeSh’ma, for reasons of modesty.
1. Ta’anith 5b.
2. Bereshith 48:21.
3. Commentary of the Tur on Bereshith 49:33.
4. See Drisha 262.
5. Magen Avraham and Mishnah Berurah, Orach Chaim 565.
6. Orchos Tzadikim, Shaar HaEmeth.
7. Sefer Chasidim 15.
8. Titein Emeth L’Yaakov, p. 65.
9. Gemara Yerushalmi Shevi’ith 10:3.
Text Copyright © 2006 by Rabbi Daniel Travis and Torah.org