Behind the Open Door
Two vivid images of hospitable men emerge from the blistering pages of this
week's parshah. In the first episode, the venerable Abraham, recuperating
from his recent circumcision, prepares a lavish welcome on a mercilessly hot
day for three dust-covered travelers who happen to pass by his home.
Later on, these same travelers - actually angels in disguise - continue on
to the Sodom, which they are about to incinerate in divine retribution for
the thorough degeneracy of its people. In Sodom, the travelers are welcomed
by Lot, Abraham's nephew, who invites them into his home. The people of
Sodom, who are philosophically opposed to hospitality, are enraged, and Lot
risks his life to defend his guests.
Nevertheless, although Lot's hospitality was apparently more important to
him than life itself, we are never told to look upon Lot as a shining
example of a kind and hospitable person. Abraham, who did not risk his life,
is our role model, our paragon of virtue, not Lot. Why is this so?
Let us take a closer look at this man Lot, a man so devoted to kindness and
hospitality that he is ready to defy all his neighbors in Sodom. But wait!
Sodom? How could a man of such high principles choose to live in a
thoroughly degenerate city like Sodom?
Here lies the key to Lot's character. Lot had spent many years in the
household of his uncle Abraham. He had seen Abraham's way of life, his
outstanding kindness, his legendary hospitality, his purity of character,
and he had seen how these qualities had earned Abraham enormous stature and
prestige. When he arranged his own way of life, Lot instinctively imitated
the patterns of Abraham's life. Abraham had been kind, so he was kind.
Abraham had been hospitable, so he was hospitable. These became the pattern
of his existence to the point that he knew no other.
But it was all superficial. Lot's kindness did not stem from deep conviction
or profound empathy with other people. All his acts of kindness were
mechanical, the products of habit. To have acted otherwise would have been
disrupted the equilibrium of his life. Underneath lay the true Lot, the
greedy, self-centered man intent on gratification and insensitive to the
needs of others. When he had to choose a place to live, this subterranean
side of Lot's character made sure he would settle in a place suitable to his
true character. That he chose Sodom, the ultimate in greed and selfishness,
reveals to us the nature of his true character.
Nevertheless, even in Sodom, the old habits persisted, and Lot continued to
go through the motions of hospitality - even at the risk of his life. It is
a well-known psychological phenomenon that people are often willing to risk
death rather than disrupt the familiar patterns of their existence. Lot was
such a person. He was a creature of habit, albeit good habits, not a man of
The difference between Abraham and Lot manifested itself in their
descendants. Abraham was the essence of kindness, and therefore, this trait
was passed down to his descendants for all time, even to this very day.
Lot's kindness, however, was only superficial, and his descendants, the
ungrateful nations of Ammon and Moab, manifested his true nature.
The Talmud (Taanis 5b) relates that Rabbi Nachman once asked Rabbi Yitzchak
for a blessing.
"Let me tell you a parable," Rabbi Yitzchak replied. "A man was once
traveling through the desert. Hungry, tired and thirsty, he arrived at an
oasis where he found a fruit-laden tree and a stream of water beside it. He
ate the fruit, drank the water and rested in the shade of the tree.
Refreshed, he rose to go. But first, he wanted to bless this wonderful tree.
"`Tree, tree, how can I bless you?' he said. `I cannot bless you with sweet
fruit, for they are already sweet. I cannot bless you with ample shade, for
you already have it. I cannot bless you with a stream of water, for you
already have one. All I can say is, may it be the Will of Hashem that all
shoots replanted from you should be just like you.'
"So is it with you, Rabbi Nachman,' he concluded. `You have Torah, wealth
and sons. All I can say is, may it be the Will of Hashem that your sons
should be just like you.'"
The commentators wonder: Was Rabbi Nachman so totally blessed that he had no
room for additional blessings for himself? Was there nothing left to do but
bless his children?
The answer lies in Rabbi Nachman's connection to Torah. The blessing was
that his connection to Torah and the nobility of character it engenders
should become so deep and powerful that Rabbi Nachman and the Torah would
become one and the same entity. In that case, his children would
automatically follow in his ways. The blessing, therefore, was to Rabbi
Nachman himself, but it would manifest itself in his children.
In our own lives, we must ask ourselves if our values and the patterns of
our lives are only mechanical habits, or if they are the products of our
convictions and genuine sensitivities. We must remember that the children of
Lot did not emulate what he did. They emulated what he was. If we want our
children to follow in our footsteps, we must be like Abraham - what we do
and what we are must be one and the same.
Text Copyright © 2010 by Rabbi Naftali Reich and Torah.org.
Rabbi Reich is on the faculty of the Ohr Somayach Tanenbaum Education Center.