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Males, Memory and Milah: Why No Shalom Zachor for Girls?
By: Rabbi Yehudah Prero
The Medrash (Rabbah, Shmos 30:12) tells of an encounter between the Emperor
Hadrian and his nephew, Unkelos. Unkelos was the author of the translation of
the Torah into Aramaic, a text of such primary importance that it is found
in most all printed versions of the Torah to this day. Unkelos told his uncle
Hadrian that he wished to convert and become a member of the nation of
Israel. Although Hadrian attempted to dissuade Unkelos from pursuing this
action, Unkelos insisted. Hadrian said to his nephew "Go and study their law,
but do not undergo circumcision." Unkelos responded "Even the wisest in your
kingdom and the elders, 100 years of age, are not able to learn the Torah if
not circumcised."
Another Medrash (Tanchuma, Mishpatim 5) recounts the same basic episode, with
a slightly different dialogue. In response to Hadrian' suggestion to learn
the Torah, but not undergo circumcision, this Medrash has Unkelos responding
in a slightly different fashion. He said " Do you reward your warriors upon
success in battle unless their take their weapons with them and give of their
lives in your service? So too, if a person is not circumcised, he is not
able to learn Torah, as Hashem did not reward His people unless they devote
themselves to Him and give of themselves to His service, through
circumcision."
The point central to both of these recountings of the conversation between
Unkelos and Hadrian is that it is impossible to learn Torah and retain it on
any meaningful level unless the person learning Torah has undergone
circumcision. The circumcision, an action performed on a person's body, has a
major impact on the person's soul, on the person's spiritual existence. The
state of being uncircumcised has such a significant negative effect on a
person that it will make the true study of Torah impossible.
Women, however, are never faced with this impediment to the study of Torah.
The Talmud (Avodah Zarah 27a) states that "a woman is considered as if she is
circumcised." A girl, from the day she is born, is prepared to accept the
words of Torah and retain them. She is on the proper spiritual level to study
the Torah. She is considered, from birth, as if she has undergone the process
that brings a male to level of spiritual perfection that allows him to study
the Torah.
Perhaps it is for this reason that we have no custom to conduct a Shalom
Zachor for a girl. As we discussed in the last posting, the point of the
Shalom Zachor is to remind the newborn boy of the Torah that he learned while
in the womb, so that he will be inspired to continue on the path of the Torah
throughout his life. Why is this reminder needed? When a boy is born, not
only has he forgotten the Torah he learned, but he can not even begin to
study the Torah or be truly affected by the study of Torah because he is not
circumcised. The soonest this baby boy will be become a receptacle for the
holiness of the Torah is at the age of eight days, and in other
circumstances, perhaps even longer. The famous Mussar (ethics) text, Orchos
Tzadikim, tells us that "a person who forgets must make for himself
reminders. He needs to set forth devices to assure that he does not forget
specifically Torah." Because the young boy has this lapse in time between
when he is born and when he can first study Torah , chances increase that the
boy will forget that he has learned Torah. Chances of recapturing that
knowledge at the later date when it becomes possible (after circumcision) are
lessened. Therefore, we have a custom to remind the child at some point
before the circumcision about what he did while in the womb. We remind the
boy about his prior study of Torah, and point out to him that soon, in a
short period of time, he will be able to continue that study which was
previously concluded at the time of his birth. We follow the lesson of the
Orchos Tzadikim by putting a mechanism in place to ensure that the child does
not forget the importance of Torah study.
By a girl, however, there is no lapse of time between the cessation of Torah
study and the girl's ability to be impacted by the study of Torah. She is
capable of receiving the Torah immediately. She needs no prior spiritual
improvement before she can study the Torah. Therefore, she is not presented
with an opportunity to forget the importance of what occurred while in the
womb. Because she is impacted by Torah immediately, there is no need to give
her any special reminder about what Torah is and its importance. Hence, there
is no need for a Se'udas Zachor for a girl.
May we all merit to have children who are manifestations of the beauty of
Torah .
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