Parshios Acharei Mos & Kedoshim
Last night, I had the privilege of attending the hesped (eulogy) of HaRav
HaGaon R’ Moshe Halberstam zt”l, held in the famous Bobov shteibel on
Rechov Chaggai in Jerusalem. For many years, the Bobov shteibel had the
distinct honour of hosting Rav Halberstam every day for mincha/ma’ariv;
this was why it was likewise deemed an appropriate venue for his eulogy.
There were many great speakers, including Rav Yaakov Yisrael Meisels,
shlita, Rav of Kiryas Bobov in Bat Yam and son-in-law of the previous-
previous Rebbe zt”l, and Rav Salant, shlita, who gives a derasha in the
shteibel every week during shalosh seudos. The last hesped, delivered by
R’ Moshe’s grandson, stands out in my mind.
He asked the following question: The Gemara (Eiruvin 54b) tells the famous
story of Rav Preida, who, in a monumentally selfless act of dedication,
would review each Mishna with an especially weak student 400 times! Only
after 400 times would this student fully grasp the material, and Rav
Preida would not allow him to settle for anything less.
Once, in the middle of their studies, there was a knock on the door. It
seems Rav Preida’s presence was requested at an urgent community
gathering. He politely told them that he was presently in the middle of
learning, and that he would come as soon as he finished reviewing the
material with his student (little did they know what that meant!).
Painstakingly, they continued to review the material 400 times, each time
going over it as if it was the first. After the 400th time, Rav Preida, as
he always would, asked his student to repeat it to him.
This time, however, he couldn’t. Try as he might, he stuttered and
stumbled and just could not get things straightened out. “My dear
student,” said Rav Preida patiently, “normally, after 400 times, you grasp
the Mishna with great clarity. Yet now, even after we have gone over it
400 times, you still stumble. What was different this time that you remain
“Rebbe,” the student said, “from the time that they came knocking on the
door to call you, I could no longer concentrate. I kept thinking, ‘Soon
Rav Preida will go… soon he will leave.”
“Fine,” said Rav Preida, “I am here. I am not going anywhere until we are
finished. Try and concentrate, and let’s start again…” He proceeded to
teach him the Mishna another 400 times! The second time around, he got it
At that time, the Gemara concludes, a heavenly voice rang out: “Rav
Preida, take your pick: Either to live 400 years, or that you and your
entire generation will receive eternal bliss in the World to Come (in the
merit of your great dedication)!”
“I choose,” said Rav Preida, “the World to Come for me and my entire
Said Hashem to the angels, “Give him both!!”
An exceptional story, and an exceptional reward. But in another place, he
asked, the Gemara credits Rav Preida’s longevity to something else
entirely. Rav Preida’s students once asked him: “Rebbe, what did you do
that you merited to live so long?” (Apparently they never heard of this
His answer: “I was always the first person to arrive in Beis Ha-midrash in
the morning. (Megillah 28a)” Now even if they had never heard the story,
he certainly hadn’t forgotten it. So why did he give them a different
R’ Moshe’s grandson answered brilliantly: There are people who by nature
are not particular about how they spend their time. For such a person, if
he were to, say, spend three hours in the hospital visiting a lonely old
man, it would be a great mitzvah, no doubt, but no great surprise. He may
on other occasions spend three hours shmuesing with some friends about
matters of no great significance. Perhaps, as a result, he’ll sleep in,
and catch a super-late minyan. This is not to diminish the mitzvah that he
did. But for him, giving away even big chunks of time is something that
But what if a person who is highly scheduled and never wastes even a
minute were to spend the same three hours keeping the old man company—now
that would be something to talk about!
The fact that Rav Preida was willing to give huge amounts of his precious
time to study with his student was in itself a remarkable feat. But taken
in the context of Rav Preida’s nature—this was the same Rav Preida who
never wasted a moment, never slept in, and was always the first person to
open the beis ha-midrash in the morning—it is truly astonishing!
R’ Moshe, his grandfather, he said, was the same way. For eight hours a
day, he would see people, answer their questions, offer them advice (da’as
Torah), and help them work out their problems. As Rav Meisels said, all
over the world, old and young, rabbanim and laymen—whomever you asked
would tell you, “R’ Moshe—I’m very close with him!” And they all were. He
gave endlessly of his time and energy to help others, always with a smile,
and never asked for anything in return.
Yet by nature, R’ Moshe was a very scheduled person. For many years, he
would take a nap each afternoon—for exactly 13 minutes—no more, no less.
In fact, after his death, when they were looking through some of his
writings that he wrote when he was younger, it became apparent that his
extreme generosity and ever-present smile didn’t come naturally. Many
times he had written in his personal diary, “Today I spoke to so-and-so
impatiently—I have to work on that!” Ye’hi zichro baruch.
The generosity of Rabbi Chaim of Sanz zt”l, the holy Sanzer Rav, author of
Divrei Chaim, is legendary. R’ Chaim, it is said, would never retire at
night until he had completely emptied his pockets; every last penny was
distributed to the poor and destitute.
Once, it is told, a distinguished scholar approached R’ Chaim with a
personal problem. He had, with G-d’s help, succeeded in procuring a
suitable match for his daughter. But now he was in desperate need of funds
for the wedding, dowry, and other expenses. R’ Chaim gave him generously,
but the man was still short a substantial amount. “You know what,” R’
Chaim said, “in the city of Dinov lives a tzaddik—R’ David. He is also
well-to-do. Let me write you a letter. Take it to him, and hopefully he
will give you a worthy sum.”
The man took the letter, and set off to Dinov. There, he met R’ David,
son of the renowned tzaddik R’ Hirsch Meilech of Dinov zt”l, author of
B’nei Yisasschar. He gave him the letter. R’ David, who deeply respected
R’ Chaim, gave the man generously. Along the way, he succeeded in
collecting additional funds, and by the time he returned to Sanz, he was
satisfied that he would be able to wed his daughter with honour and
He returned to the Rav to thank him for his help.
“Tell me,” said R’ Chaim, “How did you do in Dinov? How much did R’ David
give you?” The man told him. “Really?!” exclaimed R’ Chaim, “I would have
thought he might have given you more generously!”
Somehow, the Sanzer Rav’s words were eventually repeated to R’ David.
Needless to say, he was hurt by the criticism. “The Torah says (in this
week’s parsha, Kedoshim, 19:17): ‘Do not hate your brother with your
heart,’” R’ David said. “I interpret this as follows: One should never be
judgmental of others on the basis of one’s own good heart! Everyone has
areas in which they excel. Is it my fault that I was not blessed with the
generous heart of the Divrei Chaim?!”
R’ David’s rebuttal made its way back to the Divrei Chaim. “It’s a
wondrous interpretation,” R’ Chaim remarked, “—however in my case, it’s
simply not true. I am not at all generous by nature. To the contrary, I
was always very stingy, and had a very hard time parting with my money.
It’s something I grappled with for many years, until I completely overcame
my lack of generosity. All the same, R’ David’s point is well taken.”
We are often naturally attracted to areas in which we naturally excel. Of
course, it’s only right to use our G-d given gifts to serve Hashem in ways
that others perhaps can’t. But true greatness is not defined only by what
is achieved in the end, but by the hurdles we had to overcome to get
Have a good Shabbos.
Text Copyright © 2006 by Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann and Torah.org