Torah.org Home Subscribe Services Support Us
 
Print Version

Email this article to a friend

All Men are Created Equal, Part II

Chapter 4, Mishna 15(b)

By Rabbi Dovid Rosenfeld

"Rabbi Elazar ben (son of) Shamua said: The honor of your student should be as dear to you as your own; the honor of your colleague should be as the fear of your [Torah] teacher; and the fear of your teacher should be as the fear of Heaven."

Last week we began discussing this mishna, and we posed two questions: (1) Is our mishna asking us to play make-believe -- to inflate the honor of our associates knowing it is beyond what they truly deserve? (2) If we are being asked to exaggerate simply so we don't underrate, why does this apply to one's own associates more so than any other Torah teacher, colleague or student?

We continued with the historical account of the death of the students of R. Akiva -- the teacher of our mishna's author -- on account of not showing proper respect for one another. To this we asked why of all people was it R. Akiva's students -- great proponent of "Love your fellow as yourself" (Leviticus 19:18) -- to fall short in such an area.

Finally, we contrasted R. Akiva's principle of "Love your fellow" with that of his colleague Ben (son of) Zoma: All human beings are created in the image of G-d (based on Genesis 5:1). Whereas R. Akiva's principle begins with love of self -- and only then (hopefully) concludes with love of all, Ben Zoma's both begins and ends with the love of the entire human race.

As we left off, it appeared that R. Akiva's principle compared unfavorably to Ben Zoma's. Focusing first on yourself may engender a form of self-centeredness. If I'm so great, I may recognize the same in others -- or I may become so full of myself as to have no patience for and interest in them. A narcissistic love of self may inhibit rather than foster love of others.

We have all seen interviews of people of great talent and/or accomplishment. They are often so full of themselves; they go on and on about their careers, their origins, what inspired them, etc. as if no one could possibly be interested in anything else. Now if we had the slightest conception of our *own* G-d-given greatness, we too might fall into the same trap -- leaving little room for the rest of mankind. This, as we explained, was Ben Zoma's basis for disputing R. Akiva.

We now approach this issue from R. Akiva's perspective -- in order to explain why he preferred his approach over Ben Zoma's. Why begin with loving oneself?

The answer is that human beings feel an instinctive love for and attachment to themselves. It is human nature to root for and never give up on ourselves -- nor our natural extensions, our children -- far beyond logic and reasonable expectations. We love and accept ourselves in spite of a lot of faults -- often ones we can't stand in others. Our self-love is irrational; it blinds us. And when one is in love, he can overlook many annoyances, bad habits and foibles.

This, according to R. Akiva, is what we must project onto others. If we begin as Ben Zoma with love of all, we will view mankind far too objectively. Do they really deserve such unconditional love? What of all their faults? What of their annoying habits, shortcomings, cultural differences, etc.? However, if we begin with our own natural love of self, we will be capable of loving others as they truly deserve. For we may recognize that our own self-love stems from something so much deeper: the recognition that we possess a divine soul, one naturally sacred and inherently beautiful. And only then can we begin to love others in the same intense and nonjudgmental manner G-d Himself loves us.

So R. Akiva had a point -- and a grand one. We will often -- always, in fact -- find in the debates of great Torah scholars that neither opinion can be considered "wrong" -- even if Jewish law by necessity must follow one opinion alone. As the Talmud puts it, "These and these are the words of the living G-d" (Gittin 6b). Both opinions are valid and are based upon relevant, vibrant Torah truths ("of the living G-d"). And each is correct and applicable in its proper context.

Similarly, in our context R. Akiva's position is correct and relevant. Self-love is an excellent starting point and perhaps the only practical way to achieving universal love.

Nevertheless, there is one context in which it is potentially dangerous, very much so: in the study hall. Torah study does not merely have the potential to make one feel good about him- or herself. It makes him feel great about -- and full of -- himself. When a person studies and begins to understand the Torah, there is a feeling of vastness and grandeur. He has attached himself to an infinite body of wisdom; he experiences a greater-than-life sensation. He encounters the grandness of the Torah -- the word of G-d -- which he himself can understand, interpret and expound. It makes him feel different, greater. He is overwhelmed, he is enthused, he is exhilarated, and quite likely he is very, very swellheaded.

This can be particularly true with the beginner. We often find the greatest zeal, exactitude -- and arrogance -- in younger students who know so much less. To the new student, the world is far more black and white -- and often if you're not "in" ("black" in many circles) ;-), there's little room for shades of gray. Such people often feel morally and intellectually qualified to criticize and preach to the unlearned masses who they themselves have not progressed so far beyond. This is not entirely due to immaturity or lack of knowledge. It is true in part because the student has acquired that overwhelming sense of grandness and infinity, but has not yet tempered it with the more mature understanding of the Torah and of man.

There's an ironic passage in the Talmud I like to quote regarding this. It states that when a student of the scholars gets angry, "it is the Torah which heats him up" (Ta'anis 4a). This sounds at first like a very noble appraisal: His anger is not his own; he is championing G-d's cause.

The Talmudic commentator Rashi, however, understands it somewhat more realistically and unsentimentally: We are not dealing with a scholar but a student of scholars. He feels very grand due to his new-found knowledge. Because of this, he takes things much more to heart -- and gets far more carried away. And, concludes Rashi, we must be patient and put up with him till he outgrows it. ;-)

This, we may suggest, caused the downfall of R. Akiva's students. Beginning with love of self simply does not work in the competitive world of the yeshiva (Torah academy). Loving myself, the Torah scholar, is no pathway towards universal love. It will cause quite the opposite. It will create intellectual rifts of conflict and misunderstanding. I will ever be surer of my own convictions and less patient of those who disagree. The most subtle and minuscule issues of belief and practice -- which to the layman appear ridiculously inconsequential -- will to great scholars and theologians be matters of utmost significance -- over which they will viciously fight to the death. Someone who doesn't dress, act or think just as I do is the most abominable of apostates, doomed to utter and eternal damnation.

As a result, R. Elazar, a later student of R. Akiva and author of our mishna, formulated a different principle. When it comes to our Torah colleagues, we must minimize ourselves -- almost taking ourselves out of the picture entirely. It is not so much that we exaggerate the worth of others, but that we remove ourselves from the equation, and by so doing increment their relative worth by one. If we take into consideration our own relationship with the Torah we may feel too good about ourselves to give our associates the respect they deserve. Someone very wrapped up in and proud of his own achievements may not feel the same pride in his student's or colleague's Torah thoughts. He may consider them a threat -- infringing upon his own sense of self-worth. His feelings of grandness stem from his own special relationship with the Torah, the unique set of insights and explanations he has originated. The accomplishments of anyone else may be perceived more as a threat than an indication that others too can and do achieve greatness through Torah study.

This is reasoning for the self-effacing approach suggested in our mishna. We may strive and exert ourselves in our quest for growth in Torah, but in the final analysis we must see ourselves as passive recipients of G-d's great gift of wisdom. The Talmud states that the Torah remains with one who makes himself as nothing (Sotah 21b). Only one who is a nothing can become a something. (I *think* makes sense...) Such a person does not attempt to inflate himself by swallowing up the infinity of Torah. He humbles himself, attaches himself to G-d's Torah, and by so doing merits to be recipient, bearer and teacher of G-d's living Torah.


Text Copyright © 2009 by Rabbi Dovid Rosenfeld and Torah.org.


 






ARTICLES ON DEVARIM AND THE THREE WEEKS:

View Complete List

Payment in Full
Rabbi Naftali Reich - 5769

Moshe's Personal Assessment
Rabbi Berel Wein - 5771

Body Language
Rabbi Yochanan Zweig - 5771

Frumster - Orthodox Jewish Dating

Forgotten Oaths
Rabbi Aron Tendler - 5764

In Other Words
Shlomo Katz - 5764

A Lesson About Our Psyche
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5757

> To My Very Last Breath
Rabbi Label Lam - 5772

Replaced with Genuine Joy!
Rabbi Label Lam - 5774

The Shepherd Sticks with His Flock
Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann - 5761

Looking for a Chavrusah?

What Are We Missing On Tisha B'Av?
Rabbi Label Lam - 5764

Appreciation
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5772

Wise Rebuke
Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann - 5758

ArtScroll

Eisav's Reward
Rabbi Aron Tendler - 5759

Shabat Outweighs the Ninth Day of Av
Rabbi Berel Wein - 5772

9th of Av: Reasons for Fasting - Part 2
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5758

Not To Worry, G-d's In Charge
Rabbi Pinchas Avruch - 5765



Project Genesis

Torah.org Home


Torah Portion

Jewish Law

Ethics

Texts

Learn the Basics

Seasons

Features

TORAHAUDIO

Ask The Rabbi

Knowledge Base




Help

About Us

Contact Us



Free Book on Geulah!




Torah.org Home
Torah.org HomeCapalon.com Copyright Information