Parshas Vayeishev
Judging by Appearances
Appearances often times deceive the beholder. In this week’s parsha this
human tendency to rush to judgment on the basis of external appearances and
physical circumstances plays an important part in the narrative of the
Torah. The brothers of Yosef misinterpret the cloak given to him by their
father as a symbol of hatred towards them. “Why should he be allowed to
dress differently than we?” is their complaint.
Parents who are fortunate to have a number of children will immediately
recognize this situation and the whining that accompanies it. Yet out of
this seemingly minor event, a great and historical tragedy and a fulfillment
of a dire prophecy emerges. Yosef’s attitude and his dreams certainly did
not help the situation, but in the judgment of the Torah and its
commentators, the brothers misread the situation and badly overreacted.
They would pay a great price for this misjudgment. They would now take every
action and statement of Yosef as being a direct threat to them and their
roles in founding the Jewish people. He was “different” than they were and
“different” people often and regularly have been misunderstood and
oftentimes needlessly and wrongfully persecuted in the history of Jewish
society.
Yosef’s physical beauty, his attention to his appearance and his brilliant
and charming personality only intensified the hatred of his brothers towards
him. He was far too ‘different” than they – and in the words of the Torah
itself, the brothers never really recognized Yosef as the great, noble and
holy person that he was until very late in their relationship with him.
In the Torah, we are told of the instance where Yehuda sees a woman sitting
at the crossroads of a highway. He does not recognize her even though she is
his daughter-in-law. She is dressed in a “different” manner and he
immediately comes to the conclusion that because of the circumstances, she
must be a harlot. He will be eternally and publicly shamed for mistaking
Tamar’s appearance - and out of this unlikely union the future of the Jewish
people will arise – but it is obvious that this was not Yehuda’s finest
hour. He judged the woman by her appearance and he was mistaken. He will
later admit publicly that she was the more righteous one.
Yosef is attractive and charming and well liked by all who come into contact
with him. He is entrusted with everything in Potiphar’s house. The wife of
Potiphar misreads Yosef’s appearance and is convinced that he will succumb
to her wiles and seductions. The brothers of Yosef, who could not see past
his cloak of many colors given to him by their father, will also be unable
to see past the royal garments of Egyptian power that he wears.
Yosef recognizes his brothers but they do not recognize him. They see only a
person clothed in the garb of an Egyptian viceroy standing before them. How
painful it is and how destructive it is to have to be judged merely by
appearance and raiment. In truth, the Torah teachs us that “humans only see
physically what appears before their eyes but that the Lord, so to speak,
sees into the heart and essence of the person.”
Shabat shalom,
Rabbi Berel Wein
