Did you ever watch a little boy acting wild just to draw
attention? Attention seeking changes with age. A small child feels no one
is paying attention to him or her and so the child will do anything to
create excitement. A teenager who develops an unsightly blemish will refuse
to go out in public because he or she is convinced "Everyone will laugh at
me!" A middle-aged person might not dress to perfection because "no-one
ever notices me." Once a person joins the elderly their attitude becomes "I
hope no-one notices me"
All of these attitudes demonstrate a lack of self-confidence. If one learns
the right way, from teachers who know true values, then one can develop an
ability to decide whether something is right or wrong without taking a
survey of friends, neighbors and business associates. One will be able to
decide whether they are dressed right, spoke effectively at the meeting, or
treated any situation in the right fashion. Self confidence means you trust
yourself to evaluate your own actions
Today when you start to question your behavior because you fear that it
might not meet the approval of your associates evaluate your behavior
internally. It might take a minute but it will save you from many mistakes
you might otherwise make while trying to get the approval of others.
DID YOU KNOW THAT
Weddings may be performed in synagogues even though many congregations in
Diaspora have forbidden conducting ceremonies in synagogues to counter
Reform customs which copy Gentile ways?
When wedding ceremonies are held in a synagogue the people must be very
careful to respect the sanctity of the place by not engaging in idle
chatter, improper speech and by wearing clothing, which is not modest.
Eating or smoking cigarettes in the synagogue proper is forbidden. It is
forbidden to sit with legs crossed in a synagogue even to place a book on
one's leg to make reading easier because it is a sign of haughtiness in
[Source Yalkut Yosef vol 2, Siman 151:8,9]
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