Torah.org Home Subscribe Services Support Us
 
Print Version

Email this article to a friend

Parshas Eikev

Watch Me

By Rabbi Raymond Beyda

And you shall teach them to your children to speak in them (words of Torah) Debarim 11:19

In the second paragraph of the Shema Yisrael Moshe Rabenu repeats his instruction to the Jewish people to teach Torah to their children. Of all the requirements that parenthood entails the command to teach our children is repeated many times in the Torah in order to stress its importance to all generations. In each of the places where this all-important misvah is mentioned a different aspect of the commandment is learned. What is special about this week's alert?

There was once a man that sent his son to a great scholar asking that the Rabbi train his son in preparation for his thirteenth birthday when he would reach the age of Bar Misvah - entry into the adult congregation of Israel. After several lessons the boy did not come back to learn from the Rabbi. The curious sage contacted the father and inquired about his young student's whereabouts.

"I am not sending him back", responded the irate parent.

"What seems to be the problem?" asked the Rabbi, "We were progressing very well towards the big day when he would accept the yoke of the commandments". "Well, I made up my mind not to continue when my son returned from a lesson and asked me, 'When are you going to make Bar Misvah Daddy?'"

"What do you mean?" the Rabbi asked.

"My son said, 'The Rabbi told me that once I became Bar Misvah I would have to put on my tefillin every day and so I was wondering when you were going to make your Bar Misvah'."

"I was not able to answer but I did decide not to send him back again," Dad explained.

The verse says: "And you shall teach them to your children - to speak in them." Our Rabbis explain that the best way to teach is by example. If you want to teach a child that he must learn Torah and observe its commandments you should "Speak in them" - occupy your time learning and doing. The best teacher is a father who does what he wants his children to do.

It is important to work on oneself constantly in order to become a positive role model for one's offspring. Someone once asked the Hafetz Hayim "When should one start the training of his children?"

"About twenty years before he is born", replied the Torah giant. The traits necessary to be a Torah personality and a figure for one's children to emulate takes years of training to develop. Therefore, one must begin the self-improvement program years before becoming a parent. To be successful in the job of parenting one must live Torah "When you are sitting in your home, when you are lying down and arising and when you depart on the road" Success.

Shabbat Shalom

Visit www.raymondbeyda.com


Text Copyright © 2006 by Rabbi Raymond Beyda and Torah.org.


 






ARTICLES ON KI SEITZEI AND ELUL / ROSH HASHANAH:

View Complete List

Elul: A Month of Preparation
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5758

Is Mankind Strong Enough?
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5771

Elul Its All Relative
Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann - 5769

Frumster - Orthodox Jewish Dating

Wake Up!
Rabbi Label Lam - 5767

The Uniqueness Of Rosh HaShana
Rabbi Yissocher Frand - 5771

The Custom of Eating Symbolic Foods
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5755

Looking for a Chavrusah?

The Extended Family Called Society
Rabbi Berel Wein - 5766

Prayer for Redemption - It's For The Birds
Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann - 5764

No One Will Do it For You
Rabbi Yaakov Menken - 5762

> Future Judgement
Shlomo Katz - 5768

War On Three Fronts
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5763

Dead Man Falling
Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky - 5759

ArtScroll

The Month of Elul: Customs
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5758

Close Only Counts In Horse-Shoes
Rabbi Yochanan Zweig - 5772

The Fast of Gedalya
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5760

Starting From Scratch
Rabbi Pinchas Avruch - 5764



Project Genesis

Torah.org Home


Torah Portion

Jewish Law

Ethics

Texts

Learn the Basics

Seasons

Features

TORAHAUDIO

Ask The Rabbi

Knowledge Base




Help

About Us

Contact Us



Free Book on Geulah!




Torah.org Home
Torah.org HomeCapalon.com Copyright Information