As we begin the second phase of communal mourning over the destruction of
Jerusalem and of our holy Temple this week -- Rosh Hodesh Av-- our focus
should turn to the remedial action expected of us at this time. We are
aware that repentance for all of our peoples' transgressions is a
prerequisite of redemption, however, we also feel inadequate to meet the
task of so many years of spiritual failures building one upon the other.
The Hafetz Haim explains a remedial approach with a parable.
There was once a businessman who fell on hard times. The lack of business
caused his debts to pile up and his ability to pay what he owed
diminished. His credit standing in the community dropped to where doors
were slamming in his face at every turn.
One day he entered the offices of a wholesaler from whom he bought
merchandise on a regular basis. He placed a large order but when he tried
to pick up his merchandise and head home the wholesaler said, "I am
sorry. I have checked our records and your credit history is nothing but a
series of broken promises to pay on time -- yet you never do! I can't
deliver the goods on credit."
The pleading and the crying of the poor merchant cracked through the
toughness of the distributor and he was prepared to release the shipment
except for the fact that several of his loyal employees objected
saying, "We can't allow you to give this man credit--the whole market
knows that he is a good man but he still just can't seem to pay his
The scene heated up between the two -- the merchant pleading for credit
and the wholesaler refusing to give in--when another customer entered the
office. His suggestion saved the day and made both parties happy.
"Listen," he said to the begging businessman, "you really don't need all
of this merchandise immediately, so why don't you cut your order to a much
smaller amount that will get you by and which you will certainly be able
to pay for in a timely manner?"
Then he turned to the wholesaler and said, "I know that it is not
efficient for you to take small orders but if you accept this plan you
will reduce your exposure and get a misvah by helping this man survive.
As time goes on he will probably build his business up to where he will
not only be able to order according to your minimum requirements but he
will also be able to pay you on time!"
The deal was made and both left the scene happy with the outcome at the
end of the day.
The comparisons are clear. G-d in His mercy is willing to forgive our
transgressions and bring our Redeemer speedily--especially considering all
of our pleadings, confessions, and promises to repent and be good in the
future. However, the Midat Hadin--power of strict justice -- is blocking
our success by pointing out all of our broken past promises. The only
solution to end the impasse is for us to do what we can do--in small
bites -- to prove that over time we can succeed in our return to the ways
of the Torah and reestablish the credibility of our promises.
The Hafetz Haim suggests that we start with the laws of speech. We must
all work on eliminating the negative speech that flows so easily from our
lips. Lashon ha-ra [negative or harmful comments], rechiloot [comments
that create animosity between people), sheker [lies and dishonest words)
and Nivool Peh [talking dirty] are the areas we should work on until we
reestablish our credit with Hashem. In this way we all can contribute to
communal improvement, unity and love one for another and give Hashem the
impetus to send our Redeemer to rebuild Jerusalem and our holy Temple
speedily in our days.