Like a mantra, people utter the words, ďI will be happy whenÖĒ Each person
has his own fill-in for the blank, but whatever it is, his happiness depends
on it. It might be the newest car, the fanciest house, the corner office, or
the wardrobe worth dying for. It could be the right spouse, acceptance into
medical school, that great job, or people who understand meÖ Each person has
his own value system and his own criteria, but he clearly knows, ďOnce I get
it, I will finally be happy.Ē
Yet an amazing thing happens. He does finally get it! And lo and behold, he
still isnít happy. What happened? It was all that he needed. It was all that
he wanted. He finally has it. Why isnít he satisfied? What is the problem?
The problem is that he isnít living the way his life was planned. If you use
a fine surgical instrument to pry open a window ó it does a lousy job, and
it ruins the blade. When you live in a way other than your Creator intended,
life just doesnít work well. And slowly, after a lifetime wasted, you learn
that money doesnít fill your soul. Pleasure and honor just donít satisfy
your inner needs. Oh, they look so alluring. They exert this almost magical
pull, but they never work. At the core of your essence, you remain empty.
And like drinking when you are hungry, as soon as the excitement of finally
getting it passes, you find yourself more unsatisfied than before.
Unfortunately, most people discover this way too late in the game to do
anything about it.
The Most Enjoyable Activity Is Growing
Hashem created the human to grow. It is in his very nature. Growth is the
activity that brings him the most joy. Hashem put man into this world with
many challenges and much to accomplish. When man uses his life
appropriately, he achieves inner balance and harmony; he is at peace with
himself. The sun is shining bright. The birds are chirping. The colors are
so vibrant ó he is so alive. He is happy. When he uses his life for any
other purpose, he finds himself empty and unsatisfied, listless, with a
constant need to fill a void within.
This is one of the great ironies of life. The more a person focuses on
purpose and meaning, the more bountiful is his life. The more he focuses on
taking in all of the pleasures this world has to offer, the less he enjoys
them. Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we may die is a formula for
finding less pleasure and less enjoyment in life. The hedonist is bound to
fail because his existence becomes just an endless race to fill an ever
widening gulf within. This isnít a quirk in the system, and it isnít by
accident. It is part of the design.
Make no mistake, pleasures have their place ó they are tools to be used.
When a person is content, he is better able to serve his Creator. By
properly using the luxuries and comforts of this world, man elevates
himself. He transforms the mundane into the holy and is better suited for
his mission. By doing this, he also elevates the world itself because he is
using it for its intended purpose. He enjoys this world and gains the World
The Five-Star Hotel Called Life
We are in this hotel called life for but a few short years. Nevertheless,
Hashem designed it as a five-star accommodation with many luxuries and
amenities. Hashem created a custom-made world with flowers and trees,
sunrises, and mountain tops for our use. All of the extraordinary beauty was
put here for us. The orange, the apple, the pear, and the banana were
created for us to enjoy. The flavors, textures, and aromas in food didnít
have to be there. Nor did color. Hashem invested great wisdom into creation
for our pleasure. It isnít the reason we are here. But it is part of the
design. The difficult part is not losing our way, not mistaking the passing
for the permanent, the hotel for our home.
The reason man canít find happiness is that he isnít focused on why he was
created. Assuming that this world is the end all and be all of Creation, man
pursues everything but what he was put here for, and so he lives out of sync
with his very nature. Then, for some ďstrange reason,Ē nothing seems to
satisfy him. So he begins that elusive search for happiness ó in all the
If a person wants to live a meaningful, satisfying life, he needs to
understand himself. He must relate to the needs of his soul. The only way
that he can do this is by finding his mission in life, finding out why
Hashem created him, and why Hashem put him into this thing we call life.
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