I daven with a very traditional conservative minyan. Aside from the giving
of aliyot and mixed seating, the congregation is as observant as any
Orthodox minyan. Some women wear tallit/kippah, though I have never seen
any in tfillen. I will qualify that however, by saying that few come to
weekday minyanim.
I have never had any desire to wear any of the "male" religious garb,
although I do wear women's slacks. I feel that those things aren't a part
of my religious role, any more than an Israelite takes on the
responsibilities/obligations of a kohen (as someone else pointed out.
On the other hand, as I am often the only woman in shul on weekdays (and was
when I davened with an O minyan in college as well), I do find it awkward to
sit and wait while the men put on their tallit and tfillen. There are a lot
of learners in our congregation, so this often involves a lot of discussion
as to minhag, etc. about wrapping tfillen. I do feel occasionally left out,
like I am not a "real Jew" because I can't take part. So I understand where
many women are coming from.
The only suggestion I have to anyone in this situation is what I have done.
Use this time to get yourself ready for davening. As someone pointed out
in the "speedy davening" thread, this can be invaluable. And it adds a
tremendous dimension to your spiritual life.
Sarah Watson