Mr. Berlin, I am a female student at the University of Virginia and
personally I think your daughter (and you) need to realize one thing. If
she feels inferior in her religion because of something that happened to
her at the synagogue or student services which she attended, then it seems
to me as if she is basing her importance as both a woman and as a Jew on
her experience and involvement in the synagogue. What we must realize is
that the center of Judaism is NOT the synagogue -- it is the home. Tell
your daughter that the day she gets married, she will be the queen of her
home. Her higher level of binah will take her very far in regards to her
family, and it is this that will determine the level of observance and the
religious experiences in her future home.
You see, the center of Judaism IS the home, and it is there that your
daughter (and the rest of us) will be able to leave our mark. If your
daughter is at Emory University, then she is obviously not a second-class
citizen in relation to men. It is obvious that she is a bright girl, and I
believe it is a mistake for her to determine her place and importance in
this world on the notion that there are some things she could not do at Yom
Kippur services.