Re: Lies for shidduchim (dating)

A. D. Gross (adg@pobox.com)
Tue, 28 Oct 1997 01:05:17 -0800

(Shraga Simmons) ssimmons@Aish.edu wrote:
<<A Torah Gadol told me it is permitted to lie in order to get someone to
go out on a Shidduch, as long as the truth is told before any marriage
plans are made.>>

This is a VERY scary idea. What if, chas v'shalom (G-d forbid), the
well-intentioned liar dies before having the opportunity to tell the truth?

The marriage would be based on a shaky foundation.

And what about the issue of ganevas daas (deceiving someone)? What about
keeping far from sheker (lies)?

I'm not comfortable with this.

A. D. Gross -- http://www.pobox.com/~adg